One of my beautiful families had a rough birth. Baby's heartones went down dramatically and consistently right before pushing and when her waters released we witnessed quite alot of meconium. Meconium by itself is not a reason for transport. Meconium with consistentlly lowered heart tones is a sign of MAS (meconium aspiration syndrome), this baby girl did have MAS. She was transported and ended up being born in the ambulance. The paramedic was wonderful and allowed me to continue care in the ambulance and I was allowed to help catch the baby, resolve a minor shoulder dystocia and help to provide resuscitation to baby! This is quite unusual. Lets just say alot of emergency support will arrive at a home birth and not understand and be kind of hostile, wondering out loud what kind of witchcraft is going on here hehe. We were so fortunate. When I asked if I could go his response was "I want you to". He later told me he had caught 14 babies in the field and he and his wife had all their babies at home too:)
Bradley did have to stay in the hospital for treatment for MAS but was home after a few days. It was terribly disappointing for the family to not have this baby born at home and in water, like was planned.
I recommended to the family that we do a Rebirthing Ceremony. It was such a beautiful and healing experience for the family, friends that were in attendance, and even for me. I highly recommend this for any mama whose birth didn't go as planned. It DOES matter how a baby is born, not only that the baby is healthy. There is impact to mama, baby and family (and midwife). I love this family and I am so grateful to Melissa for sharing this information publicly. I love you Melissa Lawrence James Lawrence, thank you for trusting me and for all of your support, love and openness!
Below is Melissa (the mama's) perspective on the rebirthing ceremony.
Bradley's Rebirthing Ceremony - March 13, 2017
No matter how much you plan and prepare, birth is one of the few amazing things in life that is really left up to fate. You can envision what you want and how you want things to happen and you can do everything in your capability to prepare for that but in the end you cannot control it. The mystery is part of what is so special about it.
Taylor & Jordan were born in the hospital but we used the Bradley Method and they were born free from any medical intervention. So for Bradley, we decided to have a home birth. I had acted as a doula at a friend’s home birth a few years before and I knew that’s exactly what I wanted - my baby being born quietly and peacefully in the comfort of our own home surrounded by our family and closest friends.
Her birth story didn’t go as planned. Her heart rate began to drop significantly between contractions and when our midwife, Christina, saw the amount of meconium in my water when it broke, we decided I needed to be transferred to the hospital in case the baby needed advanced breathing support when she was born. She ended up being born in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. She had to be resuscitated and ended up spending five days in the NICU. I believe all of the choices that we made, including the home birth, were for the best and brought us to the best possible outcome for my baby, but it was certainly not the beautiful, peaceful start to life that we planned for her.
Since we had such a traumatic experience with the birth, Christina recommended that we get everyone together who was there the night of her birth and do a Rebirthing Ceremony. When Bradley was about 7 weeks we had everyone over. First we all sat around in a circle and we each shared a memory from the birth that scared us as well as a memory that made us happy. Even Taylor & Jordan participated. It was really interesting to hear everyone else's perspective on the evening. It definitely brought up some mixed emotions but it also made everything fall into place and allowed me to come to peace with everything that happened.
Next we all went into the our bedroom where I was in labor. Christina prepared a beautiful bath with herbs and flower petals. We lit candles, put on peaceful music and diffused oils, and then baby and I got into the bath together. James, my friends, midwife and kids sat around next to us and we took all of the beautiful pictures we never had a chance to at the birth.
Afterwards, my family and I relaxed on our bed and Christina weighed the baby just like we would have after the birth. Christina and my friends said their good-byes and my family and I spent the rest of the night snuggling in bed just like we envisioned after the birth.
I highly recommend a ceremony like this for anyone who has had a traumatic birth experience. It allows you to create new and better memories and to come to peace with those things that we cannot control.